So this might be a lot but I finally have time and the patients to write about everything that has been going on in mine and Barry's life for the past few months. So where do I start. I guess I'll go back to July 1st. I went begrudgingly to visit my grandmother Margaret June Laffin in the hospital as I had to drive my mother there to be by her side. I wont get into details as to why I say begrudgingly but lets just say we were two people who just could not live together no matter what. Anyways in the time I was there I had a moment alone with my grandmother and even though I didn't know what she said as she was so far gone my mom fully believes that she was apologizing to me for everything and I some how saw that over everything as well and accepted that answer.
My aunt Pearl came on July 6th who is my grandmothers only sister, they stayed with her for a long visit and my mother convinced them to go get lunch. When they got back from lunch my mother was informed that June had finally passed away peacefully. My mother was devastated she had to call all her brothers (4) and let them know the news. I had to be a big help to my mom cause I knew if it was me and I lost her I would be a mess. I volunteered for everything my mom had to do, I made the memorial video for the funeral and believe me when I say I worked my ass off to make that video tell a beautiful story of her life. I volunteered to ready eulogies and poems that others brought and made my mom proud, not to mention most of my uncles as well. I was very happy with how things went.
So in this time there's more going on, a "friend" (lets say that cause I don't know what to call it anymore) anyways this "friend" went through what i'm calling the most one sided break up that was really justified. I watched this "friend" belittle this man on their birthday because they didn't get what they wanted or do what she wanted the exact way they wanted to do it. It was honestly really embarrassing for myself and Barry to watch and I found my self constantly apologizing for this "friend" treating him in such an immature manner. Anyways not the point. The point is he left that same night and a few days later I had "friend" show up on my doorstep at 3 am only a few days after my grandmother had passed away.
* A little side note Barry and I live in my parent's basement apartment so my parents do live in the same house as us as they own the home which in all appropriate terms what they say goes and there are things that are just common sense no matter who you are or where you stay *
Now onto the inconvenience that was 3 weeks of what Barry and I call hell on earth. So where to begin when there were so many lies told to me and hurtful things said about my family and my best friend. I guess I start at "friend" wasn't suppose to be at my house due to the event that happened with my grandmother of which "friend" was not respectful about it at all to my mother. "friend" did offer to help out around our house for staying with us of which when my mother asked excuses were made almost immediately for needing to have a smoke or smoke weed first but after doing so "friend" would still not do the task asked of them no matter how small it was, I ended up doing said task. [Strike 1]
Next said "friend" is terrible at saving any money which also lead to the leaving of the now ex boyfriend, thought it would be a good idea to go around my neighborhood mooching smokes of which "friend" thought they made friends with one of my neighbors from doing so. My mother was contacted by a few of the neighbors complaining about this "friend" doing so. Needless to say my mother was supper embarrassed and had a calm chat with "friend" about this of which "friend" made into a fight because they always think they're being attacked but needless "friend" said they wouldn't do it anymore. Fast forward to the next morning "friend" has gone to neighbors and mooched smokes my mother looses her shit....rightfully so. [Strike 2]
The next incident I wasn't aware of until my father confronted be about it and it goes with another part as well which blew my mind. So at my home we lock all our doors at 1 am or before depending on who goes to bed last or if it's been left until 1 am. "Friend" did not like this as they did not have a key to my house (nor would they ever get one) so that being said "friend" also did not have a working cellphone and wanted to just wander the streets late at night. My mother is not okay with this as we lock our doors and they can not call to tell us they're coming back in plus it would be rude to ring so late at night and wake the whole house. so "friend" got pissed of and claimed they were a prisoner in my house. The same night "friend" was asked not to go out after 1 am walking the streets "friend" thought it would be okay to wait until everyone fell asleep and leave at 4 am to walk the street and do what ever of which "friend" did not come back from where ever until the evening of that day. Needless to say my mother was pissed, but! that's not all, oh no there's more to this... "friend" had gotten so drunk/stoned (off what ever "friend" was using) that "friend" walked into my neighbors house two doors down instead of mine...My father got the phone call on how incoherent and embarrassing this was. [Strike 3 - 4]
So the day comes...my grandmothers funeral is that morning and the night before instead of being well rested this "friend" decided to go out at 11 pm and see a friend who has just left their fiancee which to me already sounds like a bad idea. This friend my "friend" went to see was drinking and snorting cocaine and adderall.
*Adderall is a combination drug containing salts of the two enantiomers of amphetamine, a central nervous system (CNS) stimulant of the phenethylamine class.*
I was trying to finish the eulogy video for the funeral not expecting to have to pick up "friend" from this night out, "friend" knew I was doing this important task as well. Well "friend" did not have a good night because "friends" friend tried to put some rape type moves to put it lightly if that works. So I was nearly finished making the video and had to show it to my mother and her two cousins who had come from very far to be there and they were staying awake to watch it. "Friend" called over 10 times but did not indicate they were in trouble what so ever. After the viewing of the video I left to pick "friend" up and found "friend" standing in a plaza crying and mad at me even though nothing actually happened. But I'm the bad person because I had things to do that didn't involve putting "friend" first even though I told "friend" I wouldn't be able to come get "friend" as I was busy.
[Strike 5]
The sad part is this isn't all. "friend" wanted to break my mothers rules once more to leave at 1 am and walk the street. "friend" had the most disgusting inappropriate and immature tantrums I have ever seen. "friend" spoke very ignorantly to not only me but both my parents and Barry. [Strike 6]
We're going to skip forward. My parent's have left to go to Nova Scotia to help my aunt Lil move into a new home. My parent's exclaimed that "friend" was to be gone by August 1st. "Friend" claimed that they had a place to go for the 6th so I spoke to my mother and she said it would be alright. Well my Anniversary with Barry is the 1st of August and it was absolutely wonderful with only one hick up.
First the "friend" part. So this "friend" was told that Barry and I would be out until 1 am at least and they have to go do something (we didn't trust "friend" in our house alone). I'm going to shorten this "friend" part by just saying "friend" was told that the place for the 6th wasn't going to happen on the 28th of July and hadn't been looking for a new place since just laying in bed watching netflix and going out to smoke dope. We kicked her out on the 3rd of August when we found out from the guy "friend" was suppose to be moving out with ran into me at the shoppers drug mart parking lot and told me. Not pleased neither was Barry,
Now onto my wonderful day with my BurrBear. We started the day waking up and going right to a car wash. I know that sounds weird but the car was dirty and we love being in the car wash haha the soap they use is so colorful and fun to look at so we took selfies together. After we headed straight to Orillia's water front and we started playing Pokemon Go. Funny enough there was a fair going on at the water front too. I took tons of photo's of beautiful flowers and the views and of course Barry and I which I'll include some in this blog. Anyways we went to the fair where Barry won me a giant Giraffe it's so cute. He played a basket ball game and won!
We walked around and watched the boats and played more Pokemon Go and it was really fun then we went to lunch at this pasta place that Barry has been talking about for a long time. It was so nice cause we went and made our own pasta and took it to this beautiful little water front secluded area with a blanket like a picnic it was so beautiful. We laid on the blanket and watched the water in the sun. It was so beautiful.
We decided after we would go to Kempenfest because it was getting darker out and we knew they were having a fair as well. I contacted some friends that I knew were there earlier. It didn't even matter that everyone left because of the rain. Barry played a dart game and won me a cute little purple giraffe. We went around a played a lot of their games my favorite the shooting one because I did really well at it. We also went on the ferris wheel which I thought I would be fine on but it went really fast but Barry got a huge kick out of laughing at me freaking out haha. * At this point I got a text from "friend" asking if we were in the area could they hitch a ride* like we told you we would be out until at least 1 am. We ended up not wanting to stay out so we drove home and took a bunch of blankets and pillows out to our backyard and we made a fire to exchange our gifts. Barry put on music and we had snacks and drinks it was so romantic. Barry opened up my gift to him first. I got him a black metal bracelet that I had engraved with our names and a personal quote on the inside. He's worn it every day since. My gift however made my cry before I even saw it. Barry said the most sweetest things I have ever heard from anyone, I love him so much. So he bought me the prettiest little 14K white gold ring that sparkles so beautifully. It's not an engagement ring it's just an anniversary gift which still means so much to me. It was a perfect night.
*until "friend" walked into the backyard before 1 am, walked into the house and grabbed the bong and came back out to smoke... never been so lost for words at how ignorant someone can be during someones anniversary.*
♥ Our lives are now back to normal, and everything has been really fun and great ♥
♥ Happy 3 Year Anniversary BurrBear ♥
